There are individuals or couples who question parenthood or have decided to forego it.
You may tell yourself that you’re one of those folks and you’re puzzled how that could be an issue. That’s completely understandable. Forgoing parenthood or questioning your readiness doesn’t automatically mean that there’s something to work on. However, this state of mind could cause people to experience stigmatization, biased treatment, and pressure from family, work, or the society at large. Such experiences, if prolonged, could produce low self-esteem, self-doubt, loneliness, anxiety, or depression.
Additionally, the question of having children may become a point of contention in a relationship if partners feel differently about it. A partner may feel resolute in the decision of not having children. The other one may want to have children or feel ambivalent and need reevaluation of the decision.
Whether your concern is managing external pressure or conflict resolution I guide you to find and express your inner voice. I support you to honor your identity. That may result in having children, foregoing it, or giving it room for continued evaluation.
Children deserve to have parents who had made careful consideration regarding their desire for parenthood. They deserve to have parents who had examined their capacity to not only fulfill custodial needs but also emotional needs of their offspring.